Life After Cancer

Advice to help with decisions about work after cancer

Posted by Guest Author on 06 August 2021

This article is from Barbara Wilson, the founder and director of Working with cancer, an organisation working with employers, employees and medical professionals in helping people affected by cancer, return to work. In this article, she provides some tips from her personal experience as well as her professional experience.

My experience

Returning to work after cancer wasn’t something I gave a great deal of time or thought to during my treatment for breast cancer in 2005. When I was first diagnosed, I kept telling myself and others that I’d be back at work if not in five days, then in just a few weeks. I rang my boss several times saying “I’m sure I’ll be back in the next week or two.”.

However, as my treatment plan changed and became more complicated after chemotherapy was advised, I realised that going back into the office might have to wait a bit. But I was always going to return, no matter what. It was just a matter of waiting a few more months. After all I had worked all my life and as far as I was concerned it was my life – there was simply no alternative. Interestingly, my colleagues thought otherwise and looked somewhat confused and almost put out that I was really coming back; after all, as one colleague happily told me, they had managed perfectly well without me and surely I wanted to spend more time with my family now, doing the many things I still wanted to do before… (awkward pause)? Except that I didn’t actually want any of that.

Everyone has a different experience

But my experience is not necessarily typical. For many people returning to work after a cancer diagnosis is something they dread because they hate their work or their boss or their work colleagues or all three. Or it’s just too demanding with hours of work or travel or other pressures that they can no longer endure.

It is also the case that most if not all of us find the experience of cancer life changing and, because of that, want to change our lives before it’s too late. We may well have used the time of active treatment to examine what our priorities are and realise that friends and family have been neglected or that our work is just boring. We might want more balance in our lives and/or need to find something that will give our lives more meaning.

So, we are often confronted by a disconcerting mixture of emotional and practical considerations often made worse by the trauma of cancer treatment and the impact of medication, and in the meantime our families and friends advising us to move on and just put it all behind us. Let’s ring the bell in the chemo ward and forget it ever happened!

So, what to do?

Here are my top tips:

  1. One really critical point for anyone going through the ‘what to do about my work’ dilemma:  never resign! It may just be that you can’t face the rigours of full-time work but remember that under the Equality Act 2010 you are entitled to a gradual, phased return over many months so this should allow you to gradually ease yourself back in.
  2. But if you really can’t stand your job, rather than chuck it in and rush into the next thing, it’s really important – if you can afford it – to step back and take stock. One of the coaching tools we use is to get our coachees to complete a Life Map which asks them to consider their lives in the round and what they would want to have achieved or happened over the next three years. It’s an important if difficult exercise, and admittedly not everyone wants to go there, but it does give you a sense of direction and helps you better understand your priorities.
  3. You may want to share all or part of your Life Map with family and close friends. They may be quite surprised and probably relieved that you are moving forward.
  4. And when you return to work, assuming that’s what you do, a lot is likely to have changed, both within your team and work environment, as well as your priorities. For many of us just getting confident in our old role is enough but others will start to think about future roles and what is right for them. Some may want to ease down and work fewer hours, others will want to pursue their career as if nothing had changed, and some may look elsewhere for fulfilment: voluntary work, self-employment, just something else other than ‘same old, same old’.
  5. All of this is very normal after the trauma of cancer – just give yourself time to think things through and consider the outcomes. And, if you have concerns that as a result of your cancer your employer may be holding back from giving you additional responsibilities that they think would put increased pressure and stress on you, or if you are starting to think about changes to your role or have concerns about your future career direction, it is really important that you discuss these with you manager or HR or take advice from an organisation like WWC.

What it’s also important to remember is that most of us, including those with secondary and metastatic cancer are very employable. You can find satisfying and rewarding work with or after cancer, and in many cases, if that’s what you want, enjoy a brand-new career.

In 2005, after being diagnosed with breast cancer and based on her professional and personal experience, Barbara set up a group with the aim of helping those of working age affected by cancer to return successfully to work. The group was the first to develop guidelines on work and cancer for HR professionals, line managers, employees and carers and she subsequently chaired a major element of the NHS/Macmillan 5- year Cancer Survivorship strategy, leading a multidisciplinary team developing ‘work and cancer’ support tools for employees, employers, carers and health professionals. In 2014 after attending the School for Social Entrepreneurs, Barbara launched Working With Cancer® as a Social Enterprise providing coaching, training and consultancy services to employers, employees, colleagues affected by cancer, carers and health professionals.

For more information you can follow Working With Cancer on: Twitter @workwithcancer LinkedIn Working With Cancer Instagram @workingwithcanceruk

Future Dreams hold a range of support groups, classes, workshops and events to help you and your carers during your breast cancer diagnosis. These are held both online and in person at the London-based Future Dreams House. To see what’s on offer and to book your place, see here.

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The information and content provided in all guest articles is intended for information and educational purposes only and is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice. It is important that all personalised care decisions should be made by your medical team. Please contact your medical team for advice on anything covered in this article and/or in relation to your personal situation. Please note that unless otherwise stated, Future Dreams has no affiliation to the guest author of this article and he/she/they have not been paid to write this article. There may be alternative options/products/information available which we encourage you to research when making decisions about treatment and support. The content of this article was created by Barbara Wilson and we accept no responsibility for the accuracy or otherwise of the contents of this article.

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